Expectations

Now that 2019 is here, what are your resolutions?  Exercise more, eat less, get healthy.....all of the things we should do on a daily basis become life goals and usually are forgotten by Easter.  So what does that do to our self esteem and belief in our ability to follow through?  Our self worth is whittled away and little by little, our expectations of our abilities is almost non existent and we just give up and stop trying to be better versions of ourselves. Why do we do that to the one person that is the most important? 

There is a quote from the book entitled The Five Invitations by Frank Osteseski that reads; "Welcome everything, push away nothing".  Meaning, welcome all the events in your life with no reservations or expectations. Take risks, build your self esteem and find the lessons that come from every experience and learn them.  Life goals and resolutions set us up for failure.  By having a marker we have to meet to achieve the goals, we focus on just the goal.  We don't experience the journey along the way to the goal.  Think about the yearly resolutions for the year.  One year, when I was a business owner, I made a goal to make X amount in sales of product. I had set up monthly goals that I thought were attainable and for the first three months of the year, I hit my goals! On month four I was slightly behind by the end of the month, but not much and month five....not even close and I gave up the goal.  What I didn't realize while I was so focused on the sale was that in the process and experience of educating my clients, I was forming relationships and lifelong friendships with people.  People who trusted what I was telling them and expected me to know what I was talking about and educating them about.  All of which I did know, but I look back on all that I missed in the moments that we were together laughing and talking.  I don't believe in having regrets (as per the name of my blog) but let me say that by looking back it has taught me to welcome each and every experience and opportunity that comes my way.  The key to this is to be open and let the gifts flow to you and through you. 

The last three months have been a roller coaster in my life.  Figuratively and somewhat literally when you count the amount of flights and driving across Wyoming and South Dakota that I have done. By the end of December 2018 I had lost a job, interviewed for two others in Sioux Falls that I was later offered, flown to Utah for Christmas and moved into a new town home that I was in the process of buying in Brandon South Dakota. Now, by the end of February 2019, I will have moved back to Utah, start working at a salon March 11th and living with one of my dearest friends until my job and life start moving forward more.  Had all of this happened three months ago I would probably be a hot mess.  Which has happened a time or two in the last month, but I have learned to take things as they come and understand that my support system of friends and family more than want me to succeed and I need to honor them and LET them help when I need it.  STOP expecting so much from myself and others when they don't know what my expectations are because I am not a great communicator.  Shocking, I know!  It is essential for me to let opportunity flow and not try to control it, label it or understand it.  Just be patient and let it happen.  And OH MY HELL that is hard for me!  Welcome everything, push away nothing. Because I can tell you, if there are experiences and opportunities that come to you that feel right and just flow like they are supposed, they are meant to happen to you and for you.  Let them be and embrace them. No expectations, just love. What you put out, I guarantee you will get back. And don't we all want to have that positive energy coming back to us? I know I do....and all of that comes from love. But that is another book with a different title that I write about next.  

Peace and love my friends.